1 Steven C. Hayes, Kirk D. Strosahl, and Kelly G. Wilson, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Process and Practice of Mindful Change (Guilford, 2011).

2 Katy Milkman, How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be (Penguin, 2021).

3 Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow (Macmillan, 2011).

4 Milkman, How to Change.

5 Roy F. Baumeister, «Ego Depletion and Self-Regulation Failure: A Resource Model of Self-Control», Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research 27, no. 2 (2003): 281–284.

6 Nir Eyal, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life (Ben-Bella Books, 2019).

7 Evan C. Carter, Lilly M. Kofler, Daniel E. Forster, and Michael E. McCullough, «A Series of Meta-Analytic Tests of the Depletion Effect: Self-Control Does Not Seem to Rely on a Limited Resource», Journal of Experimental Psychology:General 144, no. 4 (2015): 796.

8 Veronika Job, Carol S. Dweck, and Gregory M. Walton, «Ego Depletion – Is It All in Your Head? Implicit Theories About Willpower Affect Self-Regulation», Psychological Science 21, no. 11 (2010): 1686–1693.

9 Friends, season 3, episode 2, «The One Where No One’s Ready», directed by Gail Mancuso, aired September 26, 1996, on NBC.

10. Robert Waldinger, «What Makes a Good Life? Lessons from the Longest Study of Happiness,» TEDxBeaconStreet video, filmed November 2015 in Brookline, Massachusetts, https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness.

11. Jason B. Luoma, Barbara S. Kohlenberg, Steven C. Hayes, and Lindsay Fletcher, «Slow and Steady Wins the Race: A Randomized Clinical Trial of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Targeting Shame in Substance Use Disorders», Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 80, no. 1 (2012): 43.

12. Toni Schmader and Brian Lickel, «The Approach and Avoidance Function of Guilt and Shame Emotions: Comparing Reactions to Self-Caused and Other-Caused Wrongdoing», Motivation and Emotion 30, no. 1 (2006): 42–55.

13. Brene Brown, Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts (Random House, 2018).

14. Janina Scarlet, Unseen, Unheard, and Undervalued: Managing Loneliness, Loss of Connection and Not Fitting In (Robinson, 2023).

15. Brene Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection, and Courage, audiobook, read by the author (Sounds True, 2012).